Intercourse of the Mind
I have to be stimulated before I engage in anything invigorating;
Cause my mind to think…indulge in a little heavy pondering.
I want intercourse of the mind…
I need you to undress my mind, feel my emotions, and caress my thoughts.
I need intercourse of the mind…
Can you make me mentally bust;
From slow conversational thrusts?
Intercourse of the mind is what I lust…
I want to taste the moist adverbs coming from your wet lips;
Let the tips of these metaphors glide down the curves of your hips…
I just want to make love to your mind
Can we have intercourse…?
Starting with the mind?
Arch1tekt™
Tuesday, April 30, 2013
Monday, April 29, 2013
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Man…I feel like I’m on a never ending high.
Like my first taste when I inhaled and exhaled it, not realizing even when I tried.
All it took was one pull and I was addicted.
Like an old habit, this new one is too good to get rid…I just don’t want to kick it.
Caught contact when the sweet aroma entered my nostrils…before my lips hugged it, lungs coughed it, and heart rapidly began to beat.
That was then…now it much worst.
Palms get sweaty at the thought and sight;
Lips get dry, throat gets parched, and things get light.
I need it everyday to calm my nerves and keep me sane;
Zone me out of everyday…swerve me off my one-track lane.
But it still gets worst…
I need it more than once a day;
When I wake up…before I eat and at the end of the day.
Told you I was hooked.
Curiosity got the best of me…I should have turned my back, but I instead I looked.
Its going to be my downfall…I’m burning money for a couple of minutes;
Limits…on something, that now defines what I am.
Who thought love could alter your mind and bring you on an all time high?
Tuesday, April 23, 2013
Family Hiearchy
Conversing with others as I usually do on a wide variety of subjects to hear interesting point of views on different subjects, I somehow got on the topic of family. I began to inform how the family is meant to be structured. After stating the spouse is to be second in order of structure, I didn't get my point across in time before a conflicting opinion based on the notion of not putting anyone before the parent's child was introduced. I began to ponder on this notion and how it relates to Western society marriages and relationships. Could this misunderstanding be one reason why marriages fail? One reason as we know is the mis-managing of money, but now I'm starting to believe another is a false understanding of the Family Hierarchy.
It's funny how God is the first to be thanked when things are going good, but why is it that He is last in our day to day activities? Better yet, why is it that He is not first in our relationships? As it was explained when I was younger, God is always first priority then yourself. When you get married, God is still first priority, but now your spouse is second, then yourself. When children are introduced, God is first, your spouse is second, you are third, and the children come afterwards. Please don't get caught up with the notion of order being the same as importance. It is not and will be explained later.
Before getting married, my wife and I went through mandatory Marriage Counseling sessions. These sessions broke down the dynamics of marriage, as it relates to the individual members of the family, and the hierarchy of roles. The principles were explained through Scripture reading by Pastors Kenneth and Queen Gibson of Ecclesia Ministries in Jersey City, NJ. Within the Christian household, the following is the hierarchy:
1. God
2. Parents
- Father
- Mother
3. Children
1. God
2. Parents
- Father
- Mother
3. Children
Again, these principles do not suggest order of importance, but of structure within the family. Western society and culture is deteriorating the fabric and fundamentals of the Biblical marriage by promoting selfish behavior and thinking. This is evident as thinking about oneself goes against the Bible's teaching of serving one another.
Galatians 5:13-14 NIV
You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh ; rather, serve one another humbly in love. For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”
You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh ; rather, serve one another humbly in love. For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”
1 Peter 4:10 NIV
Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.
Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.
During Biblical Days, it was customary for a servant or the host to serve the guest by washing their feet. To humble oneself by kneeling down and washing the feet that touched the ground would still be considered one of the most self less forms of serving. How many times have we said to our guests or have been told by a host, "The first time you visit, you are a guest." This means, I will cater to what you need the very first time you come to my house, but any time you come back, you are on your own to get your own food, drinks, and act as if this is your house. It sounds like a warm gesture of love, but it promotes acts of doing for oneself! Jesus in fact washed the feet of His Disciples to show not one person is greater than the other, but that we should always be in a mind frame of helping and serving another.
John 13:12-17 NIV
When he had finished washing their feet, he put on his clothes and returned to his place. “Do you understand what I have done for you?” he asked them. “You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am. Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. Very truly I tell you, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.
When he had finished washing their feet, he put on his clothes and returned to his place. “Do you understand what I have done for you?” he asked them. “You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am. Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. Very truly I tell you, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.
In trying to wrap my mind around why the Family Hierarchy and why it cannot be grasped so easily, I think question is it because more than half of relationships and marriages have had some sort of infidelity? Infidelity, whether directly or indirectly affected, would cause one to loose faith in such an important fabric in our society. Children, seeing how innocent and dependant they are definitely need nurturing, attention, and role models. Keeping this in mind, shouldn't their first role models (parents) indirectly show them how important their future partner is in comparison to other relationships? Again, I stress, children are not last of importance, but in a structural format. Children do not need the latest toys, clothing, gadgets, and other things the Jones' have to be happy. As a parent, I am obligated to ensure my children are fed, clothed, educated, and healthy. Being happy is directly correlated to being healthy, and as I am obligated to ensure my children are healthy, they must be happy. Click the following link to read additional information on the links of happiness and health. Happiness Improves Health and Lengthens Life, Review Finds
To fully understand why the spouse comes second to God in the Family Hierarchy is to understand what happens when a child meet a prospective mate. The child will eventually leave the comfort and security of their family and home to unite and create a union/bond with another. I pose the following question...
If a parent shift their secondary focus, which should be their spouse, with whom they share a bond, similarities, and passion for each other, to their child, then what happens when the child leaves the house to start a family of their own?
Genesis 2:24 NIV
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Do the parents all of a sudden pick up where they left off years later? Can they pick up where they left off years later?
With everything there is hierarchy. Without it there is no structure. What structure have you been provided in relationship to your own children, if you have any? If it is very different from the Biblical structure, how does it affect every member?
With everything there is hierarchy. Without it there is no structure. What structure have you been provided in relationship to your own children, if you have any? If it is very different from the Biblical structure, how does it affect every member?
Arch1tekt™
She Is...
Caramel Brown, like an Autum leaf found, is her satin-like skin.
She is...
Shaped like a 1979 Coka-Cola bottle.
She has...
Pillow soft spirals that she'll straighten depending on her groove;
She effortlessly turn beautiful to sexy to gorgeous depending on her move.
She is...
The middle of a Summer Night with a Fall breeze;
Slight whistle between the leaves of calm serene trees.
She...
Gives without taking and loves without faking.
Breathes my air because she takes mine away...
Cause me to gasp like an overdose relapse...
She is...
That moment when you wake up in the middle of the best dream ever, but is able to go back to sleep and pick up where you left off...
She was...
A time machine into my future when I first laid eyes on her rust riddled...almond brown eyes only to be softened by a temporary time elapsed burst of added skin color.
She is...
My life, my wife, my best friend, beginning and my end, my down and my ups...
And I wouldn't have it no other!
She is...
Shaped like a 1979 Coka-Cola bottle.
She has...
Pillow soft spirals that she'll straighten depending on her groove;
She effortlessly turn beautiful to sexy to gorgeous depending on her move.
She is...
The middle of a Summer Night with a Fall breeze;
Slight whistle between the leaves of calm serene trees.
She...
Gives without taking and loves without faking.
Breathes my air because she takes mine away...
Cause me to gasp like an overdose relapse...
She is...
That moment when you wake up in the middle of the best dream ever, but is able to go back to sleep and pick up where you left off...
She was...
A time machine into my future when I first laid eyes on her rust riddled...almond brown eyes only to be softened by a temporary time elapsed burst of added skin color.
She is...
My life, my wife, my best friend, beginning and my end, my down and my ups...
And I wouldn't have it no other!
Arch1tekt™
She Is...
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She Is...
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Infidelity in Art...Brainwashing or Imitating?
Why is it that we are increasingly introduced to examples of infidelity on in the art form that encompass our lives? Could this possibly be a reason why more than 50% of men and women have admitted to committing infidelity in a relationship, or why more than 65% of men and women stated they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught? Infidelity Statistics I wish I could say that I'm surprised at the results, but then again, I clearly see the level of thinking, which leads to the statistics.
Fact of the matter is, no one likes to have their partner commit some type of infidelity within their relationship. While this is true, why then has the "side chick" become one that has garnered mass appeal? Take for example the common hit new drama series Scandal. As the name implies, it is short of anything less than scandalous. The main character, played by Kerry Washington, has had a long time affair with the President of the United States. Throughout the entire first season, I didn't want to give the show a chance. Based on the synopsis, my mind was made up that I would not like the show without even seeing an episode. Needless to say, after seeing countless amount of Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram posts and pictures about the show, I was curious to see if it lives up to its hype. I must admit, the show is a good show from a story line point of view, but with all the twists and turns per episode, I consistently question whether it would be as intriguing if adultery was not apparent. Why is it that so many are so openly rooting for a steamy sexual encounter by a married man and a single woman?
I've asked this question to a select few and their response has been, "Its only television!" Is it? As life imitates art, and art imitates life, is it safe to refer the show as only television? I would surely say, it is about 50% of marriages walking around, but why are we accepting of it? Are we accepting of it when it does not affect us directly?
Another example to think about is Love and Hip Hop Atlanta. Stevie J is a cast member, which has tumultuous relationships with two other cast members. One cast member is the mother of one of his children, and the other is an artist signed to his record company. Again, it is startling how accepting it is of his actions by both of these women, but even more so by mass the audience. Initially I thought everyone gravitated toward him because of his arrogance and pure ignorance, but people actually want to see him make a happy home out of an impractical situation. As I think as I type, I now question whether or not we are being brainwashed into thinking infidelity is ok?
As I ponder on this for a moment, I think about my coworker who is in a relationship, but recently ran into what could have been an old fling. To add an additional level of complexity and morality to things, said coworker is considering marriage with their significant other. After running into the prospective old fling, my coworker made a conscious decision to commit infidelity because of the feeling whenever the prospective old fling was seen. My coworker, like many individuals, would hate to hurt the feelings of their significant other. I believe the longer we live in the present of our own selfish wants, we start to believe for a split second "its ok" until the act is over.
As I informed my coworker, knowing you want to act on an impulse to do do wrong, do you then place yourself in a predicament to do wrong and hope you have the ability to get yourself out, or do not place yourself in the predicament at all? Many would say the later, but again, why is it that we still do what we know is the wrong choice? You tell me?
Fact of the matter is, no one likes to have their partner commit some type of infidelity within their relationship. While this is true, why then has the "side chick" become one that has garnered mass appeal? Take for example the common hit new drama series Scandal. As the name implies, it is short of anything less than scandalous. The main character, played by Kerry Washington, has had a long time affair with the President of the United States. Throughout the entire first season, I didn't want to give the show a chance. Based on the synopsis, my mind was made up that I would not like the show without even seeing an episode. Needless to say, after seeing countless amount of Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram posts and pictures about the show, I was curious to see if it lives up to its hype. I must admit, the show is a good show from a story line point of view, but with all the twists and turns per episode, I consistently question whether it would be as intriguing if adultery was not apparent. Why is it that so many are so openly rooting for a steamy sexual encounter by a married man and a single woman?
I've asked this question to a select few and their response has been, "Its only television!" Is it? As life imitates art, and art imitates life, is it safe to refer the show as only television? I would surely say, it is about 50% of marriages walking around, but why are we accepting of it? Are we accepting of it when it does not affect us directly?
Another example to think about is Love and Hip Hop Atlanta. Stevie J is a cast member, which has tumultuous relationships with two other cast members. One cast member is the mother of one of his children, and the other is an artist signed to his record company. Again, it is startling how accepting it is of his actions by both of these women, but even more so by mass the audience. Initially I thought everyone gravitated toward him because of his arrogance and pure ignorance, but people actually want to see him make a happy home out of an impractical situation. As I think as I type, I now question whether or not we are being brainwashed into thinking infidelity is ok?
As I ponder on this for a moment, I think about my coworker who is in a relationship, but recently ran into what could have been an old fling. To add an additional level of complexity and morality to things, said coworker is considering marriage with their significant other. After running into the prospective old fling, my coworker made a conscious decision to commit infidelity because of the feeling whenever the prospective old fling was seen. My coworker, like many individuals, would hate to hurt the feelings of their significant other. I believe the longer we live in the present of our own selfish wants, we start to believe for a split second "its ok" until the act is over.
As I informed my coworker, knowing you want to act on an impulse to do do wrong, do you then place yourself in a predicament to do wrong and hope you have the ability to get yourself out, or do not place yourself in the predicament at all? Many would say the later, but again, why is it that we still do what we know is the wrong choice? You tell me?
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